5 Ways to change your thinking

Words aren’t simply Words : Words shape our world

Dr Alan Jones PhD FRSA
3 min readNov 30, 2021


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Words express our thoughts.

Thoughts shape our feelings.

Feelings influence our perceptions. Perception becomes our truth.

Alan Jones : The Secret to Your Future History

We all respond to the world in different ways, we have a particular mindset, attitude and response to what life presents.

The simplistic duality of whether you are a glass half-full or a glass half-empty person lacks a degree of subtlety and texture as well as. implying something that is fixed.

If you are looking to make changes in your life, then there is the need to honour the fact that you can break away from past ‘programming’ and ‘limiting beliefs’.

The following may help you engage in breaking away from your past stories.

1) LOOK carefully at the words you use.

Words like can’t, must, should, ought are words of limitation. They hint at experiences in the past where your dreams and ambitions may not have been given the support they needed. Meanwhile the ‘command’ words (must, should, ought) suggest that some behaviour is being demanded rather than encouraged.

The magic word ‘yet’ will help you break away from ‘can’t’ …

“I can’t do that … YET‘ implies a possibility and may well encourage the empowering question ‘HOW could I do it?’

In terms of the ‘command words’ question the source of the command.

Who is saying you ‘must’. ‘should’, ‘ought’?

Are these your words, or do they come from your past; the control of a parent or ex-partner?

Try using ‘could’, ‘might’ or ‘may’ words which imply a choice rather than an order.

2) REVIEW your self-talk

How do you talk to yourself?

Would you talk to others in the way you spoke to yourself?

Our self-talk is often the ever present commentator on our experiences.

It can be the voice of doubt as well as the voice of encouragement. The point is to give yourself a GOOD talking to.



Dr Alan Jones PhD FRSA

Director of Elyn Bres writing about personal development, the mind, spirituality and future histories. Elyn Bres is Cornish for Clear Mind www.elynbres.com